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	The following are tips were sent by some of our members, interestingly, some sent by a Silver Fox (Warren from Florida) and some by a younger Bubba (John Muldoon) they represent two very different but sensible and even funny points of view about relationships, dating and love. Remember, this site is about participation and collaboration, if you have a great dating tip or wish to share some of your personal eit with our readers, please email us! info@seniorlover.com

	01. Biggest complaints younger guys make about older guys (See below) 02. Biggest complaints older guys make about younger guys (See below)

	Biggest complaints younger guys make about older guys

	These tips were sent top us by Warren from Florida, a handsome daddy from the Lauderdale area. Warren says: "As a former therapist/psychologist, I do get a lot of older and younger guys unload on me what their biggest gripes are about each other." 1. Because older guys grew up in an even more homophobic and closeted era, they can still have basic issues about being gay that are not resolved. 2. Often older guys drink too much and smoke too much. Again, this may be a product of their era. 3. Their health can be poor. 4. Because of all of the above, plus their advanced age, their sex drive can be low. A higher percentage of older guys have more difficulty keeping a firm erection (or even getting one) than is acknowledged or openly talked about. 5. They boss the younger guy around too much. There is a big difference between being a mentor, a guide and teacher, and being a control freak. Also being younger doesn't mean you should be treated like a child. 6. They really don't like talking to younger guys, they really don't enjoy their company per se, they aren't engaged in their interests and problems, but are mainly concerned with having sex with a younger body. 7. They can be very set in their ways. Not very interested in doing new things, but wanting to stick with what is familiar to them. Their tastes in music and movies can be very dated. 8. They can be jaded and cynical, and blasé about most things. 9. Jealousy. A lot of younger guys complain that either because of insecurity or their disbelief the younger guy is sincere, older guys' jealousy can be a major irritant in the relationship. 10. Many of them are married or were married, thus having family obligations and relationships that can highly complicate and drain off a large amount of time and energy from their relationship with the younger guy.

	Biggest complaints older guys make about younger guys

	1. They are antsy and their concentration is poor. They can't sit still long enough to enjoy a lot of things. They want to go out all the time and do not enjoy staying at home. They like to go clubbing too much. 2. They never read books or newspapers and it is hard to talk to them about a variety of subjects, they are not very well educated or versed about what is going on in the world. They seem to lack empathy with other people's problems unless they relate directly to their own. 3. Their tastes in music and movies can be very limited. Often they lack appreciation for movies and songs that were not created for their era. They play their CDs and the radio way too loud, or get lost into their iPods. 4. While there is a good possibility that the older guy has been through what the younger guy is currently going through, there is slim or no possibility that the younger guy has any real understanding or empathy on what a 60 year old is going through. Maybe more than any of the others, this is the complaint that had the most emotion behind it. Older guys do lament that there are a lot of things they are going through that they really can't talk to the younger about, at least not with any satisfaction. Also the younger guy's points of reference can be more limited -- or at least different from -- the older guy, which can curtailed the ability to make a joke or even a poignant remark. If you have to explain the reference, then both the joke and the poignancy falls flat. 5. They are on the computers all the time and seem to have lost the art of conversation. 6. They are not very career minded, and take a rather lackadaisical attitude toward their jobs. They can put too much emphasis on having a good time, and not enough on doing something meaningful with their lives. They can be disorganized and scatter-brained. The work ethic can be very different between the different generations. 7. They don't seem open to learn from the older guy, but rather feel the time difference from when the older guy was their age means they have little to learn from their experiences. 8. They are not mature enough or experienced enough to know that it takes a lot of work, patience and forgiveness to make a relationship work. They seem thrown when you have a down time, which all relationships have. 9. They are not always reliable. They seem to put a low priority on being dependable. Older guys complain that the younger generation doesn't put as much stock into "keeping your word," whether it be something small like keeping a date for Friday night, or something bigger, like keeping the relationship monogamous. 10. Money is often a source of conflict. The attitude toward money (and credit cards) is also one of those major things that can differ between generations. Money can also be something of a battleground, whether it is the younger guy resenting the older guy buying him things, or resenting that he doesn't buy him things. Finding a way to live with the fact that often the older guy has more money than the younger one is not always easy.



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